Happy Holidays


I’m not sure how to start this. Purple ribbons are up in our yard, all around my neighborhood and down the main street of my town. We went to a funeral yesterday for a 16-year-old friend of my children who died suddenly and unexpectedly.

The purple ribbons are a symbol of how she touched our lives, and a way to show her family that the community shares their loss. Purple was her favorite color, and purple is the color of Advent.

Any time a life is cut short at such a young age, it’s heartbreaking. At this time of year, it’s especially difficult. But this young person meant so much to so many. She was the most cheerful person, full of laughter, always smiling. She made an impression on everyone who met her. She radiated joy and passed it along. She had special needs, and the real challenges that come with that, and her life, short as it was, was one of the most affirming and positive I’ve ever seen. She was a far better person than most. She was a gift.

She wasn’t mean, she wasn’t greedy, she wasn’t selfish, she wasn’t rude, she didn’t sow discord or division, she didn’t exclude others, she didn’t hurt others, she didn’t take from others so she could have more. She saw good in everything and welcomed everyone as a friend. She beamed with joy. She was alight with it. She was full of affection. Her character, her demeanor, her smile — all were gifts.

In some ways, this is the season of gifts. But I’m reminded that the real gifts have been given to all of us already, and we can share those freely every day. That is something to celebrate. I wish everyone a healthy holiday season, filled with love, peace, warmth, light, and comfort and joy.

8 thoughts on “Happy Holidays

  1. Loss of such a young and promising life at any time is tragic and heartbreaking; my thoughts are with anybody suffering right now. That you can take a positive message from such tragedy is a tribute to the character of the person you’re missing, and how they have moved those they leave behind.

    Much love to you and your family.

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  2. Loss is never kind nor easy, loss of youth and at this time is all the more difficult. Wishing grace to all those affected by this unfathomable passing, you most certainly, and fervent hope that in days ahead the spirit of this young woman will guide anyone touched by her to do things of goodness and mercy.

    Thank you for a resonant post, a soft clarion call to be good people at all times and to love each other always, as much as we can. Blessings to you.

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  3. Lovey post, Laura. I’m sitting here far from home, but happily visiting one son’s family with two of our 8 8/9 grandkids. You can bet everyone will get special hugs today!

    Condolences to your kids’ friend’s family, and best wishes to you and your family for a happy holiday season despite the difficult start.

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  4. I am sorry to hear about the loss of such a beautiful soul, as this young lady clearly had. I cannot imagine how the family must be feeling right now. She sounds like an angel, and I know she will be deeply missed by those who knew her.

    Laura, hope you have wonderful moments with your family and friends this holiday season. Treasure them always!

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